The Real Cause of Loneliness?
I was once a size 10 dress size and could buy all my clothes off the shelf. It was so cool just going to a shop and walking out with something that fitted.
But like many ladies after having two children I started to change shape. Now it's rare to get anything off a shelf in a dress shop that fits and if it does it usually means I'm in the Army Surplus store.
A friend of mine works in a department store and often sees large ladies purchasing mens pants and claiming they are for their husband when she knows they are buying them for themselves because thats the only way they can get clothing that fits!
Now I watch my 2 daughters who are just like I was at their age but this time it will be different because I have made a discovery!
While the fashion douyens sell us photos of skinny women as being sexy, I have discovered that there are a lot of men out there who don't see skinny as sexy at all!
Several University Psychology experiments in sexual appeal tested different female attributes for sex appeal and surprisingly the results showed that men preferred rounded buttocks and rounded breasts as the most stimulating.
Now ask yourself, when have you seen a skinny woman with round buttocks and full round breasts?
Why do you think so many stars have breast enlargements?
The breasts are largely fatty tissue. If you are losing weight or in other words, low on fatty tissue, guess the fist places you will lose it?
Yep - from the breasts and the buttocks - those very places your man finds most appealing!
Only a Queen sized woman has natural full round breasts and round buttocks.
And the good news is girls - there's a lot of guys out there who love us that way.
A problem many Queen sized women have is they see so many skinny images that they feel abnormal and get depressed. While they are depressed, no-one wants to get to know them . . .. Who wants misery for company?
They blame their lonliness on not being skinny which makes them more depressed. Now they talk to the mirror and claim, "Who'd want to know me when I look like this!"
What they lose sight of is - it's their poor self esteem that is making them lonely - not their body size.
It's their poor self esteem that is making them unappealing, to potential friends rather than their size.
We need to learn to love ourselves before we can ask others to.
Not everyone is going to love me whether I am skinny, fat, black or white.
I need to get over the ones who don't - recharge my "self esteem batteries" and find the ones who do. Sometimes that's not easy, but it's worth it.
And a funny thing happens:
When we like ourselves, other people start to like us too!
The whole essesnce of this site is not to try and change you because . . . .
. . . you are already beautiful.
Ladies we're going to dust you off, put on a new outfit and shine!
